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Between Form and Freedom

Raising a teenagerBetty Staley

Betty Staley explores the vibrant and exuberant nature of adolescence, offering a wise guide to raising a teenager, including:  the stages of adolescence, the search for the self, the birth of the intellect, the release of feelings, male-female differences, temperaments and character.

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‘Will make you more open and alive to the young people you love, and that will make many good things happen.’ Steve Biddulph, Foreword

This is the third and fully revised edition of this bestselling book. Challenges are tackled around self-esteem, pregnancy, behavioural problems, stress, depression, media, genderfluidity, eating disorders, drug and alcohol abuse. Growth needs are explored in relation to family, friends, the media, education, the arts, loyalty and relationships. Parents value this wise, practical guide, as Betty uniquely addresses teenagers’ soul and spiritual needs at a time when the quest for meaning is so vital.

  • Discusses how adolescents present either the ‘mask’ or the ‘volcano’ as they struggle with identity and self-esteem.
  • Tackles the current questions of genderfluidity, eating disorders, media addictions and more
  • Shares teenagers’ voices, stories and experiences
  • Opens up windows to the changing inner life of developing teenagers.
  • Easy to read, with nutshell summaries and questions for reflection and action
  • Welcomed by parenting voices such as Steve Biddulph, Caroline Penney and Kim John Payne


Betty Staley is a long-time Waldorf teacher, international lecturer on child and adolescent development, consultant with schools, and author of eight books. A New Yorker by birth, she has lived in the Sacramento area for over fifty years, earned her M.A. in education from St. Mary’s College of California. She has three adult children and five grandchildren.

Betty Staley Q&A

‘An excellent book, that is enlightening, inspiring and an essential guide for parents and teachers of adolescents. With a wide range of experience and expertise, Betty Staley offers a wise and practical approach in how we can support developing adolescents to tackle the many changes and current issues facing them in these challenging times of learning to become an adult, such as—power, relationships, self-esteem, alcohol, drugs, body image, social media. Examples from adolescents, nutshell summaries for each chapter and study questions are interesting and helpful, promoting reflection, discussion and guidance for action.’ Robin Steele PhD. Mother of adult children, grandmother of adolescents, retired early childhood teacher, parent educator, Psychophonetics psychotherapist & trainer
‘Betty Staley’s book is a must have for all parents of teenagers Her calm wisdom about teenagers and the incredible depth of her knowledge will reassure any parent perplexed or struggling with their teenager. She can enable parents to know how to help their teenager navigate the complex world of adolescence and come out the other side strong in their own identity, participating in life and contributing to others.’ Caroline Penney, systemic family therapist and author of The Parenting Toolkit: simple steps to happy and confident children
‘It’s a rare book about teens that becomes more and more relevant as time goes on.  This is not just one of them, it is the one.  Whenever I am asked by parents trying to unravel their teens behaviour, “Is that normal?”, I recommend Between Form and Freedom with a confidence that it will give them the understanding they need, to open up a path toward deeper and enduring connection with their child.’ Kim John Payne, author of Simplicity Parenting.

Additional information


Betty Staley


3rd edition fully revised






368 pages


Steve Biddulph



Publication Date

31 March 2022


234 × 156 mm

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